Leveling Up: Surround Yourself With People Who Have More of What You Want

Ever heard the phrase, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with?” It might sound like a motivational quote you scroll past on Instagram, but if you really take it in, it’s a call to action.

If you want more out of life, more joy, purpose, abundance, clarity, connection, it makes sense to be around people who already live in that frequency. Not to compare yourself. But to calibrate yourself.

Because here’s the truth: you grow fastest when you surround yourself with people who have more of what you want.

What Does “More of What You Want” Really Mean?

It could be anything:

• A calm nervous system

• A thriving business

• A loving relationship

• A creative fire

• A spiritual connection

• A bold, unapologetic presence

When you’re around people who already embody these things, something amazing happens. You don’t just learn from them, you begin to resonate with them. You pick up their patterns, their perspectives, and their energy. They show you what’s possible. They reflect back your potential.

Why This Feels Both Inspiring and Uncomfortable

Let’s be real: it feels good to be the most experienced, most grounded, or most “together” person in the room. You get validation. You get respect. You get comfort.

But growth doesn’t live in comfort. Growth happens when you step into a space where you’re no longer the expert—when you’re the one asking the questions, stretching your limits, and learning a new way of being.

So if you’ve been feeling stagnant, stuck, or uninspired… You may not need a new plan. You may need a new circle.

What Happens When You’re Around People With More of What You Want?

• You stop making excuses. Their results remind you that what you want is possible.

• You normalize abundance. Whether it’s time, money, joy, or peace, you stop seeing it as rare and start seeing it as replicable.

• You expand your identity. You start seeing yourself as someone who can have, hold, and handle more.

• You raise your standards. In how you talk, act, rest, love, work, and treat yourself.

But What If I Feel Like I Don’t Belong?

Then congratulations—you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

Feeling intimidated isn’t a sign that you don’t belong. It’s a sign that your current self is brushing up against your next self. The key is not to shrink to fit in with who you’ve been… but to stretch into who you’re becoming.

How to Surround Yourself With “More”

• Get clear on what you want more of. Peace? Power? Purpose? Start there.

• Seek out communities that embody it. Attend events, take classes, and join groups.

• Lead with curiosity, not comparison. Ask questions. Observe. Let yourself be inspired.

• Give and grow. Bring your full self to the table, and stay open to being shaped.

Final Thoughts: Expansion Over Ego

This isn’t about idolizing others or putting yourself down. It’s about putting yourself in rooms, conversations, and environments that stretch you toward your next level.

People who have more of what you want don’t just inspire you. They invite you.

They say, Come on in. There’s room for you here, too.

So if you're ready to level up, look around. Who’s already living the way you want to live?

Go spend time with them.

And watch what starts to shift.