EP34 The Pressure of Being A People Pleaser with Matt Part 2

In this episode, The Hilarious Hypnotist begins helping Matt work through his issues one by one. The tendency of ADHD is to avoid dealing with the issues at hand, and Traci calls Matt on it and begins working on each of the transactions. Traci begins throwing F bombs into the session, and Matt starts laughing explaining his aversion to use F bombs in most situations. He still finds them funny, so Traci begins changing her "fucks" into "ducks," "bucks," while "mucking" things up. The laughter works and the transaction love Matt felt dissolves. Traci learns one of the hardest things he had to do with his therapist, is take birthday money that was given to him and spend it on himself instead of his family. He bought himself a BB gun, and Traci takes those feelings and builds them up into a Purple Rider BB gun...and then transforms that energy into something he can take into the bedroom. She then helps him discover that people pleasing is not a one way street. Sometimes he needs to "take" so others can receive the pleasure of being able to give.

KEY POINTS:

- Matt continues to work through the words that kept him from being his best authentic self and doing things his way.

-Matt takes in the importance that it's okay to receive; he doesn't always have to be the one giving.

-Matt ties his good feeling to the Purple Rider BB Gun.

-Matt is challenged in a good way, and thinks about living is life in his way.

QUOTABLES:

“What happens is that when you're constantly the giver, you are denying someone else the same joy that you experience by giving, because they can't give back to you.”

"I always wanted to theme My bedroom into something fun. Married. Oh no, no, no. It's supposed to look elegant, romantic. Whatever. My bedroom is now that I'm divorced. You're like this is all Nintendo. I have an incentive lamp. I have a Nintendo posters, everything. I even have a little bit thing but pillowcases. One of them says game over. Basically my my bedroom is always ready for player number two."

"Muck this shit."

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES:

To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on:

IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/

YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA

IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/

Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

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